Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

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I flipped it around by telling her that she's gotten everything she wanted and that she should figure out why she's so angry.

Stuck,

Back when I was talking to a DB coach, she had suggested something similar. When my wife would complain about how miserable/hurtful it was, using sarcasm to make her think about how ridiculous what she was saying sounded. For example, I told my wife, sarcastically, that I can't imagine how hurtful and miserable it must be to have a person who loves them try to show them they love them by buying them flowers (she had complained about how I had bought her flowers almost each week for 4 weeks straight). Maybe you can use some saracasm or humor (you had said that was one of your "things") the next time your wife complains.

I had read a response that a woman had written on a midlife crisis forum elsewhere that she was glad that even though she wanted to leave, her H told her "Whether you want to leave or stay is your decision, however I am asking you to stay." so she understood that ultimately it is her responsibility and decision to leave but the door was open for her to stay.

That's a great line! I'm going to add that in my arsenal to stop relationship talks!

Hang in there Stuck. The fight isn't over until you are buried in the ground!