Your W is weird. Don't even know why she left in the first place.
Stuck - I agree 100% on both statements. My wife is really tough to pin down. She had said that she left because she needed time and space to heal. She said she couldn't do it at home (not that we ever talked about it before she got her apt) as she couldn't do that constantly seeing the person who hurt her so badly.
Originally Posted By: stuck808
What I'm afraid of is that you're setting yourself up for a really big fall. Not because of the positive stuff going on, but because she hasn't done anything to address her problems.
I'm afraid that even if you did reconcile today, somewhere down the line, something is going to happen that's going to set her off again and you're going to find yourself here again.
Well I'm praying for you and your family.
You know I always appreciate your support and prayers. I do agree that even if she wanted to reconcile, there is a lot of work ahead of us to have the marriage/lives we both want. I think she knows that as she has said in the past that she is just so tired for counseling and doesn't have the energy to try or endure the hurt or the reminder of the hurt anymore.
She had even said once before how she is afraid that if we did try and I "slipped up" even once and hurt her, she wouldn't be able to deal with the hurt and knows that no one will be able to live with such scrutiny. She knows that I would try my best but also knows that I am not perfect so it will be only human to do something, even if it is very minor, that would hurt her again.
It is very sad. I do feel that she needs help (not just from support from me). Even tonite, when a song came on during dinner, she got all upset as that was one of the songs she used to turn up to drown out listening to her parents fight. She is carrying a lot of pain/burden from her past (her parents, her sister as well as us).
Thanks for stopping by and offering your prayers. It has been a rough first half of the year. I really hope the second half picks up!
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
