Hello all-your posts hit the nail on the head with what I am going thru. We were best of friends and he told me he loved me and "wanted to hold me forever"-this was right after he started seeing the OW. They were not intimate but I don't think that matters. She broke up with him-to work on her own marriage (poetic justice) and he was hurt by rejection. That was when he said to not make any rash decisions. That was 2 months ago. I told him to leave the house in April when I found out about the OW. Was that the right thing to do? I have no idea. What does it mean that he tells me he stills loves me? And that if the shoe was on the other foot that he probably couldn't forgive me? He never has taken all of his stuff out of the house and has to come by every couple of days to work-self employed. He has asked me to dinner a few times and we sat here an laughed for two hours Sunday lloking at the net. CONFUSED? That is an understatement. He is unhappy with what he has accomplished in life, is trying to start a new business since the old one not doing so hot, bought a new car, and plays golf and joined a baseball team. I feel bad because he won't try to get help to make himself feel better. He just thinks he needs to be by himself. I wish I had words of wisdom but some days I feel like I am sinking in quicksand. I just want whoever reads this to know that there are others right along with them. To me, that brings some measure of comfort.
