Don't sacrifice your and your childrens' finances for your W's actions. Is there any way you can lock up your assets so she can't get to them?
Tell her that she is more than welcome to go. However she must find her own way to pay for it because you are saving the money for the children to LIVE on. Refuse to give her a single penny. Change the accounts if need be, but protect yourself.
Maybe setup a small account that's just for her with SOME money inside as an act of good faith, but tell her that she can only deposit and withdraw from that account. Your problem is that you are talking to her like a reasonable adult. She is not. She is a spoiled teenager who is crying when she doesn't get what she wants. You have to be the responsible one. Just do all this very calmly and matter of factly. Talk to her as if you were talking to one of your kids.
Hey Stuck,
Thank you for the feedback. The main issue with my W right now is a lack of motivation- associated with the EA- in looking for a job. Beyond this, she has yet to do anything significant that could be considered financially irresponsible. I will cross that bridge if/when I get to it.
I just can't sit idle while we start to crumble financially. I need her to get her head back in the game enough to function and get employed. Everything else I'm pretty sure I can achieve detachment with.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
