Back in May after the bomb my wife hinted that we separate and was never really was very direct about it. Once I finally decided what I'd do if asked directly she asked if I had been talking to friends and family and I then told her I was leaving the next day she went from being pretty cold to surprised and blurted "what about us what do we do?" and I told her that I was going to give her space and as far as the sitch appeared our R was on hold. So far 2 months after the bomb I haven't heard about any divorce filing. I feel like it is a good sign and your wife's reaction to the letter seems like she almost forgot she filed! Of course she was being very roundabout and you can probably expect that from your WAW. Anyway, one of the big 'lessons' in DB and the "Divorce Remedy" book is don't believe anything you hear and less than half of what you see (but validate what she says).
Anyway, well.. here's the deal.. now it is all about you. You are separated and probably should get out and do as much as you can to enjoy life. Stay busy. Focus on positive aspects of your life. Read anything and everything you can on detachment. Read about co-dependency and if you can find a book on how to be less controlling I'd read it too. Think about what hobbies you let go of during your marriage. If you think you have mental issues or disorders such as depression read about it and go to a counselor. If you think you need counseling for control issues go for it. Think about how you were during the first few years of dating or M with your wife. Try to be the person your W fell in love with (but of course you want to evolve from there). And lastly, in this sitch I do believe you should wait for her to initiate contact. Good luck to you
