3 years of S, OW gone - What do I want?

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SH, You know, I don't think I would look at the past years as being a waste.

First, something had to change. If this is what it took for H to grow up, then it is worth it.

Also, if you are busy working on yourself, you have made positive changes that you would not have made if you were enmeshed in R w/H.

I was in a codependent relationship and am glad to have gotten out of it. I take care of myself now. don't know if it would be possible to have another R w/H where it would not be like that.