desperate...

[The Wifey]

motoB,

I always reach out when I see someone is desperate.

First things first, take a couple of deep breaths. You did not get here over night and it will not be fixed over night. One week of a 180 will not fix anything. One week will not even become a permanent change, no matter how much you will it to.

The last week shows you that your wife is conflicted and unsure. She does still love you, but controlling and overbearing over time borders on emotionally abusive. It wounds someone to the soul. I know because this was a problem in the past with my H and I.

This does not mean give up hope. This does not mean anything of the sort. No matter who is influencing her, no matter what she has said or done, even with the filing, you still have time.

People even divorce and get back together. I know it isn't what you want to hear, but you better strap on the big-boy pants in order to make this journey. Don't forget the depends if you have problems with roller coasters.

This is not to make light of the sitch. I just have been around for a long time and I started out as desperate as they come.

Have faith that she does love you. Understand that you have to work on you. You have to grow, continue counseling, read (lots), participate here, have tons of patience and learn.

My guess is she will contact you before long. She does love you. She did say oh no when she saw the papers. Cling to the week she gave you. It was a gift. Something to hang your hat on. So many here have the bomb dropped and don't get that gift.

Read here, follow other people. Post to other people, even if you can offer mutual support and not advice. That will get more people to follow you and offer you support.

This is a long road, but I know full well it can be traveled. I tell you from experience that it can. I will keep an eye on you.