Interesting!
My H switched off like a light switch in Sept 2003.
I found out about ow in May 2004. Gasp! I was totally caught off guard, my H would never do that to me!
Can I join your club? lol

H never moved out but most of his stuff is somewhere else.
H had a place rented in 2006 (sshhhh, that's still a secret) but has always slept here on the couch.
6 years of hell but I am cautiously hopeful yet.
IMO H is slowly working his way back into my life.
We do more things together again this year than in the 5 previous years.
We have valleys and mountains to go yet, but I keep my eyes on the horizon of where I want to go. H can come with me if he chooses.
I grow weary of the physical and emotional abandonment by H but I know he is not the type of guy that will go all gushy and admit the last 6 were started by his unadmitted ow and come crawling back, but I can have continued patience while he finds his own path back to the fairy tale R we had.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.