A statement like the following seems to really piss her off:
"Next Tuesday I want to go (do xyz) in the evening, so please don't make any plans with a client or friends. Any other day is fine, just not Tuesday"
Is this a plan you are making with her, Think, or an evening you want her to clear so you can go out without her while she is with the kids? If it's the former, ask her another way. "Hey, have you heard about xyz restaurant? What if you and I try it Tuesday?" If it's the latter....Think.....no. At this time in your life, if you want to get out of the house without her, you need to line up help for the kids. Get me?
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08