This is exactly what she told me guy, you better listen. My sitch is very similar to yours including the way my W was acting towards me.
I totally understand what she means by the "voice" of respect. I came off as whiny before to her, but then I told her just last week that while she may not love me, she will respect me. I didn't say it in anger, just a position of power. I loved it and it made her shut her yap.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.