The pattern that I am now seeing is that she gets very upset every time I say that something is important to me and try to set some sort of boundary around it.
Maybe what she is trying to say is "You say what is important to you and expect me to pay attention to it, but you never respect what is important to me"
If that is the case, then honestly, I have no idea where I am doing so (Except for the recent request she made for me to move out - which I politely refused)
I have asked for examples, and she always points back at other cases where I firmly communicated something that I wanted - A weekend where I requested that we do something as a family that I wanted to do. - A vacation where I requested that we spend 1 day doing what I wanted to do
A statement like the following seems to really piss her off:
"Next Tuesday I want to go (do xyz) in the evening, so please don't make any plans with a client or friends. Any other day is fine, just not Tuesday"
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
