Over the Shock and GALing 6

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Putting my Coach hat on now...we had a similar sitch once upon a time and here is what he did:

Coach: "I thought about what you said and I can sure see how from your pov it looks like my wants sometimes outweigh your wants or needs. I can see how you might feel that way in this situation. I'm going to sit out the bike ride this time b/c I can see you need my support and help with the kids. I'm happy to help in this way. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to see things differently."

And then do it. Even if she says, "F you, Thinker. I already got a sitter, you jerk." Call the sitter yourself and cancel. And say no more about it. Never bring it up again - like "Remember when I did such and such for you." Just do it with a smile.