I think you are validating her actions, she left you and you hug her? You crack her back? you have dinner with her? ….wow….. she needs to know by your actions that what she has done and is doing is not ok or she will continue.
thats like (this is quote from a movie) Tina Turner saying hit me again Ike, and this time put some stink on it! how can she have any respect for you? without respect how can you have love?.
Your actions should include no physical contact what so ever, no non business communications at all. If she jokes around in a sexual way be indifferent about it.
Find a mutual place to drop off the kids, like at a relative’s house so you do not have to see her. Under no circumstances should she come over your house nor should you go to hers.
If you show her this, she will at first think you are being a jerk but once the initial shock is over she will start to question why…… She may talk to friends and say what a jerk he did this he did that …she may get a reply from the friend saying well you did leave him and you told him you did not want to be with him what did you expect etc…
Only when she starts question herself will you find improvement …real improvement in your relationship She needs to say to her self well maybe he is treating me like this because I moved out or told him I was not in love with him etc…. when she does this it will be a crossroads for her.
