Look at it this way. If you were a recovering alcoholic would it be reasonable for you to work in a bar? And even if you did resist the temptation would it be wise to do so? Not if you were serious about staying sober. Your wife's situation is no different.
That's a great way to put it, Wolverine. I couldn't agree more.
Puppy
I agree with this. But at this point it has to be because she is ready to do it, I think. It can be strongly encouraged, but I don't think it can be "forced" as much as it could have been earlier.
No, you can't force another adult to do something. But a spouse may certainly say "Considering your recent behavior, these are the conditions under which I am willing to try and work at the marriage."
