My advice, based on everything I've seen and read here, is that the best time to talk to an MLCer about your R is never. OK, not quite never, if he brings it up, you can talk. But even then, let him lead it. Validate, and listen. I think he is in a pretty confused state right now, don't try to get him to dig deeply, it will just frustrate him. This is the time for patience.
