A Wife that has come back? Post Affair feelings ,,

[wolverine1997]

Someone said to keep your friends close and your enemies closer. This is true in many cases. But when your enemy is a threat to your life then you better kill that enemy (figuratively speaking of course). Your enemy is trying to kill your marriage. He needs to be completely out of both of your lives. He has nothing to lose. Your wife doesn't want his wife to know, so he has nothing to lose. He can have both women with no consequences. With him in the picture you will never rebuild trust with your wife. She needs to re-assure you by removing all causes of pain that she created. If she isn't willing to do this then one must question her sincerity to re-build the marriage. Obviously this is a core issue for you, and it is understandable that you are uncomfortable with them working together. Look at it this way. If you were a recovering alcoholic would it be reasonable for you to work in a bar? And even if you did resist the temptation would it be wise to do so? Not if you were serious about staying sober. Your wife's situation is no different.