Glad I haven't signed anything with her L yet. It's getting to be time for some renegotiation of terms.
This sucks.
Yes it is time.....YOU are in the better position though Jimbo. She abandoned the home. You get to decide. Listen you need to think of you right now.
She wants out....then fork over some cash. I know it sounds a little harsh, but you can't not do this in fear of destroying any chance for reconcilliation. You must look out for you.
Remember, lawyers are not the law, be reasonable and do not give ground when it comes to this. She needs to share in this as well.
If it comes down to it you may have to prepare yourself to put it on the market, and depending upon what you want, you can either sell or stay.