Same thing!
When W is talking to other people, there she is, my "real" W. In fact, when we are together and she is talking to someone who doesn't know about us, then she'll include me in her conversations like "right, Rich?", "remember that happened to us, too" or some such thing, you get my point. Meanwhile when we are alone together, I barely get a "hello". It hurts when I hear her on the phone talking in her sweet, lilting voice with an occasional chuckle that she used to talk to me with.
I believe she has the same repetition in her head.
Anyway, my current command is in Queens, but I can get to the city anytime.


Me-40
W-41
Together-10
M-8
S-6
S-4
Bomb 5/08
Bomb 10/08
Thought things were better, was wrong.
Still living together
Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.