Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

OK Coach, I have to challenge you on this on a bit - call it a learning exercise.

"I am planning a bike ride on Sat morning. I was wondering if you wanted to join, how does that sound to you?"

Her answer: "Oh YOU are planning to go for a bike ride are you?! Why do you always do what YOU want! Why don't you think about someone else for a change"

If we end up spending time together for some other reason (car rides, etc), she immediately gets on her cell phone with her girl friends, and continues that the whole time we are together.

Let her know how that makes you feel when she ignores you.

Me: "Hi, I'd like to talk, and when you talk on the phone the whole time like this I feel ignored and frustrated"

Her: "God! Why is everything always about You! what You want and how You feel! What about what I want?! I want to talk to my friends!"

Use open-ended questions. Ask how/why.

Need some examples here. I have tried a few such as "How do you feel about that?" and just get a disgusted look and a "Stop asking stupid questions!"

You control the dialouge by asking questions. She is controlling you by answering simple questions.

Again I challenge you on this one. Give me some examples of questions that can't be answered by 1-word answers. "1-word answers" include:
- Because
- I just do (Ijustdo is only one word, right )
- Yes
- No (Did anything interesting happen today?)
- Fine (How was work today day?)
- Nothing