Abuse is abuse, whether physical or mental. Does your husband have a drinking problem or is it just the way he is. NO ONE should have to go through abuse. Has he ever directed it to the children?
My wife who I love dearly thought she was being abused by me by manipulating her to do things she did not want to do, it took the bombshell of her threatnening to leave me and wanting a divorce to get my act together and realize how I was treating her.
Please start a thread for yourself and know that I am very impressed that you are gathering the information for yourself before there is nothing left in the tank.
