Cautiously Optimistic

[Done in VA]

thanks so much for your post - Mach speaks the world of you!

What have I done so far? Spoken w/Atty...just to cover my bases

GAL - lots of reading, reconnecting w/old friends, making new friends, spending quality time w/kids...

When H first started his complaints, I took note & tried to figure out how to change to accommodate him. Little did I know, along the way, that I LIKED these changes. I needed to make these changes for myself. Many of these things I have learned to do by DBing. I'm normally the type of person to just say what I think. I have learned to hold back & have patience, not to react. In doing this the following changes have taken place in me:

1. I don't always have to share my opinion.
2. Not all people like to debate & some even get offended if I feel the need to offer the opposing viewpoint on what they are sharing.
3. I can be open-minded & flexible
4. I think before I speak...if I am wondering whether to say something or not, I probably shouldn't say it.
5. not everyone has to have a "reason", the fact they feel a certain way, can be reason enough.
6. Think...does what am I about to say have an ulterior motive, if so, don't say it.
7 Encouraging others makes ME feel good