She uses 1-word answers to shut down any sort of pleasant chats / discussions I initiate, and refuses to talk about anything significant or emotional (ie her family, work stress, goals and desires).
She has a whole list of excuses to stop any sort of fun joint activity ("Let's go for a bike ride" - "no, I have to...").
"I am planning a bike ride on Sat morning. I was wondering if you wanted to join, how does that sound to you?" Use open-ended questions. Ask how/why.
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If we end up spending time together for some other reason (car rides, etc), she immediately gets on her cell phone with her girl friends, and continues that the whole time we are together.
Plan conversation starters. Have some music with all her favorite songs on it and sing along. Let her know how that makes you feel when she ignores you.
You control the dialouge by asking questions. She is controlling you by answering simple questions. Validate her then ask a questions back.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
