Hi. I know you are friends with my buddy, Mach, so I know you are already in good hands.

I think you are in the right forum because clearly your h shows signs of MLC.

So, what have you done so far according to basic DBing because this is really about you? We find ourselves and sometimes a marriages gets saved.

I always say that this is a journey I was meant to take, with changes and lessons I needed to make and learn. I just wish it didnt have to be done through the MLC rollercoaster. But, that's life.

Anyway, first and foremost, you need to take care of yourself and your children. H has to do this on his own. No other way, really.

Have you been looking inside yourself to see what changes to you, you want to make?

Start to GAL, for you.
Start to put the focus on you and the kids.
Any changes that you make in the hopes that h will notice, will backfire. He will see they are not real and that will set you back.

So, welcome to the MLC forum.
Strap yourself in, it's going to be a bumpy ride. But, I couldnt do it with better people.