Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

It goes back to the idea of treating the spouse at least as well as a stranger. If a stranger walked in the door, you would say hello. You would not be sitting there thinking, "shouldn't she say hello to me first?"

He would still walk in and just go about his business, but now I make the point of saying hello. It removes a lot of hostility from the air.

Thanks Sara, That validates what I have been doing - and encourages me to keep it up.

Last night, for example, when she walked by and shut the bedroom door, I was ready for bed myself so I went and got 2 glasses of water (I always want one next to my bed), went into the room, smiled and said hi and offered her the water, then got into bed myself. When she turned off her light and rolled over to go to sleep without saying anything, I gave her a pleasant "Good Night, sleep well" (and got a muttered "'night" in response).