Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hi m....

It would be very interesting.

I think we would all end up with a different outcome.

I would be doing it to heal and have peace. I would be doing it to finalize what H started. Men do what they want, maybe this is what he wants and he is just too cowardly to follow through. I have to wonder if my H isn't just trying to save his assets. I really have to look at it different from you both. I have already lived the pain of my H serving me with D papers after having been together for 25 years.

For me all I have to do is call my lawyer and tell her to proceed. Our filing is already in the court system. You and kissak have to start from scratch. You two have to be the ones to be the bad guy. It's going to be harder for you. My H already filed and got the ball rolling, I would be merely complying with him what he started.

I have been at this since: 8/16/05, my H is still with same OW.

Kissak has been at this since: 12/23/06, her H is not with OW or anyone else right now.

You have been at this since: 10/ /06, your H is with same OW I presume.

I think it is time we face the changes that have occured since our bombs were dropped on us. It's time to review and decide what's improved and what's still wrong. It's time to really decide if things can improve and change and repair.

I see lots of changes but none are significant enough to say we are working towards a reconcile. OW is still in picture and that speaks volumns.

Kissak has a good chance to repair because there is no OW. Men do not like to be alone. She is growing very tired and is convinced her H is only playing games. I would venture to say she does not also see any significant changes. Kissak, sorry to speak on your behalf, I hope I am not out of line.

M, what do you really see?

I have said this before and here I go again:

My H will not realize what he's lost until it is gone. I think we need to D in order for H to really feel regret and loss. It is through that painful loss that he will change. I just hope he comes to me and is honest.

I think we are working ideas, let's keep it up....

S