Hey?!? Who Locked Up My Mojo?

[AlexEN]

Is infidelity really on the rise?

The recent Time magazine article made the point that Infidelity is on the rise, but that it is not due to the fall of morals or the reduced status or religion or any of that - it is due to opportunity.

A couple living in a small town where they met knew only a relatively small circle of people and had only one car, etc simply did not have that much opportunity to have affairs.

I think the biggest impact of all is the recent rise in cell phones, email, facebook, etc which put anyone immediately in private, intimate contact with anyone anywhere.

Just think of EA's. 20 years ago, to have an EA a person would have arrange clandestine meetings at coffee shops or make hushed phone calls from a locked bedroom or closed office door. Now...

I am now sensitive to it now and notice it wherever I go. I was at the beach last week at a family resort area. It was the middle of the week, so there were mostly women with kids on beach (fathers were at work??) At any given time I could look around and see 1 in 3 of the women on her cell phone. To whom??

I couldn't agree more... Sad that one of the by-products of technological advances is contributory to this problem.

But, what it means is that we (the Royal we) always had it in us (remember Jimmy Carter "lusting in his heart"), but now the tools to act on that perhaps natural instinct make it that much easier to make that misstep...

The truth is that ALL marriages go through ups and downs, but now, when they go through the downs, it's easier to hit the eject/send button on impulse...