d-day coming soon - help !

[misshim]

Not sure if what I did was wrong. Last night when my D4 had to go to bed she had a meltdown, missing her dad and wanting him there to put her to bed. She has had them in the past but I just hold her and rock her and love her up and then she's ok.

Last night, I couldn't console her. I tried all my methods. Then she started hyperventalating, it tore my heart out. I finally said do you want to talk to daddy on the phone and say goodnight? She wanted to and did but got his voice mail. Then she started crying because he wasn't answering. She cried. and I told her he must be at work and couldn't answer.

Well he called back right away. I did tell him that I was sorry for bothering him but I just couldn't get D4 to settle down. He wasn't angry, and he talked to her. She told him she misses him and wanted him home to put her to bed. Oh, how it broke my heart. I didn't want to stress him out either but I was at my witts end with her and I thought this might calm her. I told her daddy's at work and has to go, and I told her to say goodnight to him. I heard her say I love you daddy, and bye. She was just down to a little sobbing, when I took the phone. I apologized again to H, but I just didn't know what else to do. He said, it's ok, don't worry about it.

We hung up and I was able to get D4 to bed. Of course with the promise that she would see daddy wednesday after daycare. (his day).

About 15 minutes later, H texted me and asked if that had helped D4 in getting her to bed. I told him yes, thank you. He never answered me again.

I probably took a huge step back, but I felt so sorry for her. I really hate to see her have to go thru this, at the same time I know that it will only get better.

Does anyone think that I screwed up???? I've always felt that what happens in our house I will handle when I have her. Same respect when D-4 is with him at his parents. But last night was just awful. I've never seen her so upset in the 7 1/2 months that he's been gone.