Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

You DB goals should be centered around becoming friends again. What can you do to increase the friendship?

I got this Coach. I understand it and I am really struggling to answer the question:

"What can I do to increase the friendship?"

In my heart, I feel like we are friends right now. I know, however, that she does not consider us to be friends.

[Complaining=Thinker]
When we have discussed it in the past, she used any discussion we have had where I did not immediately agree to everything she wanted as a reason we couldn't be friends. I know that's not the answer.

She uses 1-word answers to shut down any sort of pleasant chats / discussions I initiate, and refuses to talk about anything significant or emotional (ie her family, work stress, goals and desires).

She has a whole list of excuses to stop any sort of fun joint activity ("Let's go for a bike ride" - "no, I have to...").

If we end up spending time together for some other reason (car rides, etc), she immediately gets on her cell phone with her girl friends, and continues that the whole time we are together.
[/Complaining]

So I am scratching my head and headed back into the fray to try again.