Well maybe there is a small but significant leap from being a "near WAW" and an actual "WAW." In most ways I felt alienated and hopeless about our marriage. Perhaps if I had met someone else that would have pushed me over the edge. I relate to the WAW up until the point of actually refusing help for the M.
And, AlexEN, I think a lot of us experience that irony...some to the extent that their spouses have the energy for a new and equally time consuming, challenging R or even new family. In my case, both H and myself are doing things that we would have needed to make the M work. It makes no sense.
I'm certain the kids see it. Not sure how it impacts or impresses them. Sad.
