Wouldn't help. She knows when I am here, and wouldn't expect the kids to need her over me. They are old enough to not care about that so much. And then I would also get the "using the kids against her" speech. Everything is justified to her in her mind right now, and in her mind, we are completely done except for the finalites of it all. She is in the house till summer is over, kind of wishing right now summer were over. And until I can get a way for our business to quit supporting her, I am kind of screwed.
If that's the case, then it's not a boundary for you -- it's a "geeIwishYouWouldn't."
Take some time to consider what are TRULY your "dealbreakers" right now. Maybe the coming-and-going isn't, I don't know. Only you can decide that. Are you getting enough sleep to be able to perform at your job? Does her coming in so late disturb your sleep?
It is a boundary that I wish I could enforce, but when she doesn't care and just crosses it, what do I have to stand on? She did apologize for making me feel disrespected, but I don't put anything to the apology. It is affecting my sleep. Mainly because I can't stay asleep while she is gone like that, and when she does come in I am so pissed that I can't go back to sleep.
So her family knows what is going on and wants to theow an intervention on her. Basically her mom and sisters. I said hold off right now, is this a bad idea....push her further away? She doesn't know that her sisters have any idea.
Hold off, I say, but it's good to know they are in your corner. My Ws family is supporting her by telling her to move on if she is not happy!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
To the WAW's, she doesn't know that her sisters know. How would it come across if they all conyacted me about their anger and digust? That is some exposure she is unawae of right now. The only person in her family I have talked to is her mom. her mom is the one who told the sisters, and told me how they feel.
So her family knows what is going on and wants to theow an intervention on her. Basically her mom and sisters. I said hold off right now, is this a bad idea....push her further away? She doesn't know that her sisters have any idea.
What do you mean, they "know." Did you tell them, or did they find out on their own?
