Hi Hope- Sorry that you have found yourself here however this place will give you a little bit of sanity in the crazy world of MLC.
Your H is following the script...He thinks you're controlling, he feels lost, he says you can't change, blah, blah, blah! Two years ago my H was saying the exact same things. Recently he admitted his anger toward me and that he perceived me as "negative". He said that EVERYTHING I did made him angry. He admits that it didn't matter what I did, he would have found something wrong with it. You will need to give your H his space to let him figure this all out.
Each MLC person handles MLC a little differently. Hopefully your H does not have an OW, remains financially responsible and keeps a good relationships with the kids. That being said, prepare yourself for anything. This rollercoaster is long with lots of drops and curves so you will need to learn to detach. This will truly be a test of your love for your H and patience. Learning as much as you can about MLC and depression is helpful. Find your strength and figure out how, regardless of the outcome, you and your kids will be okay.
