Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

LRT is pretty hard when you are living together. It basically means stopping most communication and just living parallel lives together in the same house. After a while the continued non-communication just becomes further justification to your spouse.


I fight just to keep some sort of communications going - "How was your day? What are the kids plans for tomorrow?" sort of talk - just to try to keep the tension in the house down.

Last night my W came home from a friends house, walked right past my office where I was working without saying a word, went into our bedroom, closed the door and went to bed. The clearly implied message: "I do not want to talk to you".

There seem to be pretty clearly defined guidelines for a lot of situations (ie If there is an active A, then expose it. If your spouse asks you to move out, then don't. etc), but there does not seem to be any clear thoughts on how to get out of Limboland. The best advice seems to be to move forward with your life, focus on yourself, make yourself a happy, confident person. At some point your spouse will either decide to work on things or decide to leave, or you will decide that you have had enough and it is time for you to leave.