Sounds pretty similar to my sitch. My W told me "She Can't be married to me anymore" as if it was something over which she had no control. I now understand where she is coming from - WAW, pure WAW.
Ok, first, I think you should let her know you guys do not seem to be communicating as well as you could - specifically the miscommunication about who was to do what for the S agreement.
What did she say she needed more of when you guys last discussed the S agreement? More $$? or what?
Still think she is conflicted but she, like many WAW's (mine included) try to put on a face of determination. My W even told me she was "resolute" in her decision to leave. Mine is still here...for now.
The way I would handle the discussion re the separation agreement is set a time to discuss it - just you two. Explain that you acceept the fact that you have no control over what she chooses to do. Tell her you don't agree with her decision to leave, but understand that is what she wants. While telling her she has a choice of whether to leave or not, you want her to stay - but again, that's her decision. Be calm, soft spoken, yet firm when you explain this to her. And, be prepared for whatever she chooses. If she wants to move forward with the S agreement, then have that discussion. But you will have given her some things to think about, and you place the responsibility for deciding to leave squarelywhere it belongs...ON HER.
Hang in there. I'm thinking of you. You can do this.
