Have you been reading SmileyPerson's threads at all? If you want a playbook on how to get your wife re-attracted to you, there it is. His whole approach has been one of "smile and wave," and "Hey, you're the one who said you wanted this, so . . . " At the moment, he's still not responding to her hints and clues, because he's not sure he wants her back (not sure I would, either), but I contend that it's RIPE for a reconciliation attempt, IF that's what he wanted.