Orich, From a journal I found months ago, I know that my W was fantasizing about how wonderful life would be if only she and OM could get together and raise their kids jointly in one big perfectly happy family - fun and joy and love and sex and no problems ever because everything would be so perfect (yuck!! )
I think she is still holding on to that.
She get's upset at anything that conflicts with this vision: When I act as anything more than just a babysitter with the boys, when I take the boys to family events with my family, when I start talking about equitable (in the eyes of the law, not per her definition) splits of our assets, etc.
She is also going through a ton of stress and loss with her family and her parents, and I think this is making her hold onto her fantasies all the stronger.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
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