Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hi kissak,

How have things been this week.

Maybe your H is more distant because he thinks you have found someone new.

There are two choices (maybe):

EITHER continue with the avoidance of H, no contact. See where it takes him/you....it may take some time as he needs to think this through and process his moves.

OR do a 180 and test the waters, ramp up the contact and see if H is drawn back. You say he isn't seeing someone. Perhaps he needs to feel wanted by you again and waiting to see what you do. Maybe he wants more but is afraid to approach for fear you have truly moved on.

You know I don't have the answers. If I did my sitch would be in a better place. It's just somthing to think about. You see I think about this all 24/7 and I am an analyzer.

No S or D papers is good. As long as those don't come your way, you have options. I think it's time for something new. Try to come up with a new plan. I am assuming you still want H back at home. I am wondering how H would respond if you were to open the door a bit wider. I think your chances are better since there is no current OW.

I can't take my own advice because OW is still smack dab front and center. OW is at the office right now with my H. I am practically sick to my stomach. I have 15 days to go before court. I can't sleep well and eating is becoming difficult. My anxiety is so strong right now. I don't see H making any significant changes and I really don't see him asking for another postponement.

((((HUGS to you)))) Take care....keep posting. We can try and help each other.

Sanderika