Have you guys had any discussions about custody, finances, living arrangements, etc? Has she truly considered the reality of what she is about to step into? If she pushes with the S agreement, might be a good time to do that. How are you going to split the Christmas ornaments? Who gets the pet(s)? That kind of thing.
Indeed we have. We have a draft agreement, but it has not been talked about for a few weeks. I thought that the reality that discussion brought, in terms of her not getting full custody and the real hard truth of finances being tough with 2 households, is why she had not brought things up.
Now it seems that me not bringing the R talk up or finalizing the sep agreement (though proper DB) has backfired. She says now that it is "clear" we can't seem to talk about it or get it done, she needs to get her lawyer involved. That being said, I do believe it was the right tactic. I agree with that y'all said; she is not in the right mind and is a current phase of flight again. Some more hard reality might be good.
The danger I see is she talks about the money spent on lawyers, time and energy spent already on this separation/divorce, etc. as sort of being committed to this path. Not sure how I am to respond to that line of "reasoning."
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
