Well, here's the update from yesterday.....and in a word: HYSTERICAL.
Met H at Chickfila for family night with S. We ate, S went to play in the child size rat maze with a 50 other three year olds.
Yesterday morning ex OW actually had to call me at work, for work reasons. When she called on my private line I knew H had given her the number. Later at dinner, H smiles real big and says "Got a funny phone call today?" And he proceeded to laugh about it....."She was so nervous having to call you!" he said. I was a complete professional. There was a follow up email I sent to her and her boss with the final, accurate answers to her questions. She says to H, "Why did she have to cc Boss on the email?" Apparently that bugged her. As I told H, that's how I do my job. I practice CYA all day long. H thought the whole thing was hysterical.
But since he opened the door and because we've had some really great insightful talks lately (all initiated by him) I asked a question I've been dying to ask and was fighting not to, but finally gave in: "Do you now see what a lying a$$ this girl is?" He nodded and emphatically said "YES, yes I do." I asked "Why do you now see it? What happened?" He explained and it made sense and I said "OK, I was just wondering." He goes on to tell me "After she tried to get huffy with me that you CCed Boss on that email, she says 'What's up your a$$ lately?' I said what are you talking about?" He goes on to tell me that the conversation ends with him saying "I think you're a stupid C**T" to ex OW. He said she was dumbfounded and he just walked away. So I'm sitting there at Chickfila.....and I'm dumbfounded. I asked him "So wait a minute.....you told OW she's a stupid bleep to her face....?????!!!!!!" He nodded and said "Like you said and I agree, she'a liar and she earned it." I basically was screaming inside but said "Wow."
Then H had to get going so we went our separate ways. Later he called to say good night to S and me. We were joking around about stupid stuff and he said "Alright, let me go. I love you talk to you tomorrow." I am pretty sure that was truly the slip of all slips......but I definitely caught it.
So I sent him a text and said "I caught that....I love you too. Good night."
He didnt' respond, nor did I expect him too. And I know it was a huge push to call him on it, but I haven't heard I love you since early November.
He is going to be with us this evening and my plan is just a normal dinner and nothing else but a relaxing evening. No work talk for either of us.
H had said he would do this marriage fitness program with me because he refused to go see a MC. This was the compromise. He said we would do it on Wednesdays. We didn't do it last week, which is fine....this is one of those you pace yourself deals as long as you are putting into practice what you've learned in the meantime. And we have been. So I'm trying to decide if I should remind him about the program, or let it be for another week since things have been going with a good positive flow lately.....? Suggestions? Opinions?
So in the same day (that I have marked on my calendar) H calls ex OW quite the special name and then slips with me and says I love you. I can't stop smiling....karma truly is what they say she is! And sometimes she's just beautiful!
Another DBer does puzzles......I was thinking about getting one.
