]quote]she will not listen to what you have to say trying to encourage her to seek professional therapy. Is there a parent, close sibling, a good strong friend that could talk to her and try to reach her and get her to seek help?[/quote]
I thought I read where she had had more than one A since the M. I must be be confusing your thread with another one. I aplogize if that is the case. I immediately thought about that book I had read and was afraid your W may be a "serial cheater".
I should have known better than to even make a suggestion like that! That is the one thing that LBH's sees out of everything else in a post......and he jumps on it. More than one jumps on it (lol). Maybe they think it is a loophole to do what they've been wanting to do and I'm giving them the "go ahead", or something. As if saying, "Oh, Sandi is saying I can get somebody to talk to her about coming back to the M". No, that wasn't what I meant. I shouldn't have tried to explain it when I don't do a better job.....sorry.
I can't tell you word for word what another person would say to her. That would be up to them. They would "know" her and how to talk to her.....but I don't know her. I was not saying that another person should talk to her about going back to her H & work on her M. I want that understood. Nobody wants another person to talk to them about their lifestyle they are living and come in and start preaching to them. So that is why it would have to be a person who had tremendous influence with her and they would need to approach her about their concern for her "emotional" well being....not the M.
What I was refering to was if she begans to show signs of moving from one R to another and looking for those R's to bring her happiness. If that happens, then red flags need to be waving big time. I was saying that if she has a parent or a long-time friend or Pastor who sees her emotional state become more erratic and unusual from what is normal for her, and if she gets out of this A and straight into another.....that is when she is showing the signs of a woman like the one in the book I mention. I was saying that "I" was in a frame of "sick" mind that I "could" have gotten to that level if I had had my own private place to live. I shudder to think how I could have wrecked my life. So, when I see a woman who has had more than one A, it just waves a flag to me.
Right now, she can't see anything except her new R with OM. She is drugged out on those false "in-love" chemicals flooding her brain. So, I doubt that ANYONE could reach her at this stage. In fact, the more people who try to talk to her....now....will just make her resolve to rebel more and turn her friends and family away. This is a fragile situation and right now is not the right time to discuss. So, I strongly advise you not to try to get anyone to talk to her!
I guess I'm still not making this very plain. Again, if I misunderstood and thought she had had more than one A, I apologize.
Hope I did not confuse anyone on that issue. Wished I hadn't even brought it up!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
That is the 
More than one jumps on it (lol). Maybe they think it is a loophole to do what they've been wanting to do and I'm giving them the "go ahead", or something. 
