Other WAW's can chime in here to give their POV, but I certainly say to NOT push her. I think that would be a bad move. You never put pressure on a WAW....and especially when she is acting like you describe your W is doing now.

I remember when I would feel physically ill from the stress and "fog" (whatever you want to call it)towards the end of my "crisis". I thought something was happening to me like.....was I having a nervous break down. There were times it felt scary, so if I had had anybody "pushing" me at that time.....it may have pushed me over the edge.

We tell LBH's all the time to back away.....not push. This is critical when she is acting kind of strange. Also, I can remember when I was trying desparately to make up my mind whether to go or stay that I would change within a couple of hours. Every morning I would decide I was going to stay and work on my M, but by the evening time, I had turned the other direction. It was a most horribe experience.

My advice is to back away and "maintain" during this time that she's going through this. If she initiates affection, then you can "receive" it gently and not respond to eagerly. Remember it's like feeding a wild animal out of your hand.

Later,
Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!