Sandi2, Once again I thank youfor your insight into this.I am working on going dark.No more phone calls,etc.I pretty much told her that I wasn't signing any papers and if she wants to live apart ,fine.That was a couple days ago.A divorce or legal sep.would financially hurt her.I myself am doing fine even with all this happening.Meaning i'm still healthy ,in shape,and not doing anything unhealthy.Would a relative or friend speaking to her still be advisable?
What would this friend or relative say to her? ARe you trying to get them to speak to her to show her that she's wrong with what she's doing? She's in love with her opinions & idea's, getting other people to tell her what she's doing isn't right will make her rebel even more.
Remember going dark/no contact means exactly that. Let go of the rob, detach, stop contacting her in all forms. ES you keep asking similar questions about contacting her & speaking to her and we're telling you straight, stop it. It's ok if she contacts you but always keep the conversations short and be the first to end the conversations. But do not contact her: no more texts, emails, phone calls and stop finding excuses to contact her (her mail came in, etc.)
