Question to WAW's out there. When my W continues to text me with small talk randomly, is this just a ploy to keep on the hook? Most of the time I feel bad not responding, so I find myself writing something short to answer, or throw in how great it was today cuz the kids called to tell me how awesome their trip has been. I usually don't respond for at least half an hour or so if I do at all.
Yes, frankly, I think it is a ploy to keep you on a hook as her second choice in case whever she's pusuing doesn't work out. That is why I tell you men not to feel bad about ignoring her calls and emails. Why would you feel bad knowing how the woman is treating you? I wouldn't wait a half out before calling.....I wouldn't call at all unless I needed to talk to the kids. Then I would not talk to her b/c her whole point is to get you trapped in a R talk.....every time, you can count on it. I can't remember the ages of your children, but if they are old enough to call you, then you can get around talking to her. The less commication you have with her right now....the better.
Keep you self respect as a man and do not let her walk on you with anything. Do not allow her to "use" the kids as her method to get to you. You take control by dropping the rope. It is simple logic. You drop the rope and she cannot control your life.
I'm too sleepy to read, so I better sign off.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
