Yay!!!!! Finally a new thread.

[AlexEN]

...preferably I will find a way to communicate that he needs to stop. Perhaps if we make it into counseling or even as a stipulation.

IMO, you're better off coming up with a stipulated plan that works for you outside of counseling so that you can, as Puppy and Coach like to say, OWN it... It's easy for me to say now, because I made that mistake; I don't think you can rely upon a "negotiated" communication plan worked on with a counselor. At this point, and it's much easier said than done, figure out some ground rules for this now and set it as a boundary.