WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

quote=PMA_Baby!]My thoughts exactly. She is definitely showing signs of confusion, but is she strong enough to be vulnerable again.

Not very easy once you've been hurt especially if you are "stuck" and can't forgive.

Hopefully, she smartens up soon before it is too late.

PMA [/quote]

That's the intersting part of it. In her words, she is very clear that she wants a divorce and has no interest in having any relationship with me. She has even said that she sees that I've changed and don't know who that person is but it's not someone that she has any interest in. OUCH!

In my DAM opinion, I think she is/was genuinely hurt by the person she committed her heart to. She doesn't understand how someone who says they love her could treat/hurt her so badly so she can't imagine trusting that person again. Perhaps there maybe something there in her heart, but she is afraid to be hurt again. So she feels her path of least possible pain is to move on.

It's a real shame in for my boys and me.

That's why I know it will take time to regain the trust. I also know that consistency is the key to regaining trust. That's where I really struggle with the connundrum. As Wifey had mentioned, many newcomers flop around with many different approaches and strategies. I know I did that. It really confused my wife to the point where she has told me that she doesn't get me. Some days she sees me one way then next days I'm 180 degrees different. She doesn't get it nor does she want to try to.

I do agree, that I hope she figures it out before it's too late....