Why is it easy for married people to have affairs, why is it easy for people to fall in love so easily with people they just meet and why is it easy for people to forget the idea of commitment and easily throw away many years of marriage & family life just to have an affair with someone?
I think that with the rise of self-help, entitlement, self-fulfillment, the notions of loyalty and commitment are being tossed out like yesterday's fad. Seriously, it is getting really dog eat dog and people feel very inclined to do what "feels" good or right at a given moment. Even self-help gurus espouse this and people eat it up.
If you don't value marriage as its own entity and feel loyalty and devotion to the marriage itself, it is easy to piss it away for some gratification (ego, sexual, monetary). It is all about the BBD (bigger better deal)...aargh.
Plus, with the decline of religiousness, I think it loses some value. I am not religious at all but marriage is a no matter what commitment to me (thus my inability to pull the D trigger even though it is probably warranted)...
Who can say what the threshold should be for sticking it out? Is it just, hey, someone else turned me on so I left? Or is it, heck, I DB'd for six months and my H is being a putz, or is it never D like it seems it may be for some here?
Point is, IMO, you're right. The apparent value of marriage is being eroded and I'm not sure how that will be rectified. And, of course you can love more than one person at a time. We may not like it but it is true. Marriage is a choice to focus and devote that well of love that we have on one person. A choice.
