Thanks. I also see that it is malarky when we have shown that we can get along, we are still sexually attracted and we have these beautiful kids. It is possible.
I do however relate to his feeling of this being broken and unfixable and wanting to throw it all away and start over. I have had those feelings. I just don't have the bun buttering he has or the buffers. I know what we are in for and in particular, our little ones.
I do want to add that asserting that the WAS has no guilt or has no clue is a big dose of mind-reading. Much of their crazy behavior can be attributed to the guilt they are feeling. I am not saying that we know one way or the other, just saying that just because they spout out blame and vitriol doesn't mean they don't know somewhere that they are f*cked.