Or maybe the current human perception of love is limited, maybe we can love more than one person at the same time.
We love our kids and you can have several kids and love them all equally like a parent is supposed to love their children.
OK, now you've gone too far. You can think about a subject until it becomes absurd, and you are there.
Before marriage, one might love more than one person with no consequences. But love, by itself, is not the issue here. We are talking about marriage. Marriage is a sexual and a financial relationship, and many would argue, has nothing to do with love. (Or, as my old boyfriend used to gleefully point out, marriage is the cure for love.)
Are you advocating polygamy? I hope not. It's illegal in this country. We don't seem to have any posters from countries where it's legal. Why is that?
As for loving all the children we have and providing for them, yes, most parents can do that. But are they going around taking in the neighbors' kids and sending them to college? No, love is not that magnanimous.
Seriously I'm thinking out loud and I'm not advocating anything, all I'm doing is looking at the state of affairs as they exist and commenting on them accordingly.
Calling marriage a sexual & financial relationship is part of the problem. If that's all it's really for, what the heck are we spending time on these forums looking for assistance, support & possible solutions to our problems? If all we're trying to do is save "sexual & financial relationships", I'm sorry, it's no longer worth it for me & probably the bulk of most of the people here.
The sad thing is that me honestly putting an idea out there that maybe we all have an outdated perception of love gets the typical response it would get if it doesn't go along with the popular opinion & belief that society pumps out. Why is it that people get attacked for mentioning an idea? Is it possible there is some truth to the idea? I'm not a supporter of polygamy, I don't want to share my spouse with anyone else. But the fact that polygamy exists means that some people believe & agree with it but because we don't agree with their ideas & viewpoint that makes them sick & bad people. What does that say about me for passing judgement on people that I don't even know?
I never said that I liked the idea that our perception of love is outdated, I'm trying to grasp why it's so easy for people to have affairs and to leave "committed" relationships. This behavior also seems to be on the rise as well and yet no one seems to be asking why it's on the rise.
Why is it easy for married people to have affairs, why is it easy for people to fall in love so easily with people they just meet and why is it easy for people to forget the idea of committment and easily throw away many years of marriage & family life just to have an affair with someone?
Don't any of these questions make anyone question this thing called love? How can something that is supposed to be so strong be so fragile?
