Recovering from infidelity. 10 months later

[S.T. _I Made It!]

ok, this is all IMHO.

you have got to look at her. you have said all these great things about how your R is now since the sitch. Almost always, if people are having an A, you will notice things in your R. but it sounds like things are great between you two right now.

Listen, what were the reasons she had the A in the first place? because she was lacking something in the M that she found or received outside the M- in other words she wasn't receiving love in the way SHE needed it, and then someone else starts providing that for her, and then she becomes delusional. In the months or years before her A, was the M like it is now? I'm thinking not at all. So that being the case, and that it seems she IS now receiving the love that she was lacking before, why would she go elsewhere?

because this man IS there, and it is very possible that she could run into him...I suggest either you need to just trust her and be quiet, or to be upfront. Depending on how YOU have been after taking her back, I would not voice much about how you are afraid or concerned she might do it again. there is nothing she is doing now that would give you reason to believe that. You do not want to start looking desperate, or that you don't believe in her actions, etc.

well, okay, first it would be good to know HOW you know this information, and would she be mad about it. is it from you snooping? which I think you need to cut that out too. why do you need old statements of phone records? that is the past. you obviously wanted to save your M, and you have, and your M has been quite exciting it sounds, so why bring up what is old? and has no bearing on the present?

okay, I'm done. what I think is best is to act as if. because if you start acting suspicious, and start dwelling on these events and past information, your whole being is going to change, and you will react to her differently, and your persona will be different, and it won't be a good thing. don't let this become a self-fulfilling prophesy thing (if that's the term I'm looking for)