You are all right. I need to stop looking at his FB page. It isn't healthy for me. And, I know it is better that K is cared about by OW's family than not. But, I can't tell you how much it irks me that she refers to K as her child, her sons are called her big brothers, her Mom is called her Grandma. IT'S BULLSH!T. I worry that it is going to confuse her. I want to say something to H about letting her make up her own mind how she wants to address them as she gets older instead of letting OW dictate who "they" will be to my daughter. How would she like it if I called their son my step-son and referred to my Mom as his grandma. He technically IS my step-son at this point. It is so her. This is exactly how she has been from day one. An inteloper. Shoving herself into someone elses life whether they want her there or not. She is a pretty contolling little woman. Funny how my H thought I was controlling and he had no control over his own life...um, he has to ask her permission to see his own daughter, if he can have money or do anything for that matter.
Whatever. It's the life he chose. Sucks to be him.
But, the Grandma, Mommy, Big Brother comments PISS ME OFF.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
I hope you will locate the spiggot which closes the valve to your being pissed. believe it or not it is that simple.
and about that analogy of what if .... you called S's and the whore's son (if he really is the papa ..that is)your step son and had him address you and the rest of your family in some sorta peculiar family-esqe kinda way. To that I would say the same as I now say to you. You need to accept it on a certain level and not have it throw you into a tizzy. You stand very little if any chance of changing it.
Do you enjoy being pissed ? Abandon that which does not serve you or your overall health well. You need to be healthy to serve the Lord.
She & he still have you on a string to draw you into anger. A real large part of that is visiting their FB. Knock it off.
Point well taken Tomato. Well taken. Thanks. Needed it.
I'm over it.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
it reminds me of the age old invisible dividing line of the back seat of a car which parents invariably resort to in order to have a half chance of keeping the car on the road.
In this case it is an FB dividing line.
KISS ... when it comes to exchange of info with those dumba$$es. FB simplifies nothing as you have found out repeatedly.
But now you are committed to being good (in that regard anyway lol). And we will always know if you are not cuz you have an unfailing way of incriminating yourself on here.
Not that you need "policing" dear Blindy. But we will always be here to provide anyway ...haha. We police with heavy lumber.
I get how tempting it is to look on the FB...I have to fight myself every day not to drive by, not to look on the FB or the email. The thing with the FB is they KNOW you can see it. Maybe delete him as your friend and let that throw THEM for a loop. I denied H as my friend and he got so mad! It may send a signal that you don't want them looking at your page either.
It sucks what they are doing and its hurtful. Once again your H doesn't get the most sensitive man prize. Hes a jerk. Hes not a great dad. Hes not even a decent person.
You are so above them and they know it. You just keep shining! That is the best revenge.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
T and So2 had great comments. I'll leave it at that.
have a good night,
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Well, H is 7 days late paying daycare. I asked him about it because I am tired of taking the heat for him and of course, he tells me not to "f'ing worry about it". How can I not. I am so sick of this. I can't wait until the state starts getting the CS for me and I don't have to put up with this crap anymore. We exchanged words via text. I basically told him to handle his sh!t. I handle mine AND part of his. Then, stupid, doormat that I am, apologized for yelling at him. What is wrong with me?
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M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
LOL you were great until you apologized. Then he knew he still had you. HE does need to own his sh**! Daycare is part of it. This isn't an issue between you and he...its his alone. Its his responsibility. You have every right to get angry and push.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
H didn't pay daycare. K can't go back to school Mon unless he pays today. He won't return my calls or the schools. I hate him.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
