Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

I must have missed the early part of your sitch, but I am intrigued by your word choice in the signature. Why did OM flee?

The History of the Thinker EA...

Last year, after a couple of strange remarks and events which got my suspicions up, I accidentally discovered a bunch of sexually provocative IM's and photo's on my W's phone between her and OM. Complete Shock, Anger, Betrayal, Hurt. I confronted her with it and she dropped the bomb.

this was followed by 6 weeks of worthlessness with her lying to me (that it was over with OM, that there was really nothing there, that it was the first time, etc), and me trying to believe and convince her to come back - basically begging.

Then I discovered DB.

Then in February I had had enough and installed a key logger, hacked her phone records, etc. I found a heavy ongoing EA and wrote a letter to my W exposing it and telling her I wouldn't put up with it. In the subsequent discussions that night I also mentioned that I thought OM's W had the right to know.

My W immediately contacted OM in a panic, and his response was something along the lines of "My W can't find out. She'll go crazy! We have to stop! Delete all of my mails and my number from your phone! Don't contact me again!"

I know that my W has tried several times in the 6 months since then to re-initiate contact, but As far as I can tell this was always one sided - her contacting him, with little or no response.

One never knows, however...

I do know that since then she has been very careful. The keylogger is gone (she scanned for it, found it, demanded that I remove it, and has rescanned since.) In return for removing the keylogger, she gave me the passwords to her email accounts. I haven't looked at the accounts in a long time, however, figuring that if she has restarted anything, she has either opened a new account, or is carefully deleting the sent items and emptying the trash. She is an intelligent person.